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As of today date: 2-24-09

If you have a question (any question) to do with marriage or intimacy, that you would like answered, you can email them to us at:

mybelovedsgarden@aol.com

**PLEASE PROVIDE YOUR QUESTION(S), AGE, SEX AND HOW AND LONG YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED, AND...

PLEASE PUT IN THE SUBJECT: "QUESTION FOR MBG"

 

 We will answer your questions anonymously, and them post them on this page where others can benefit from the answers given. We will post ONLY your question without using your name, just your sex, age and how long you have been married, along with the answer to your question.

Questions and answers will be posted on this page. We are hoping by doing so that many will benefit from the knowledge gained from others questions, since many of us have the same questions.

 

Thank you,

God bless you,

Michael and Sherri

My Beloved's Garden

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Q.
Hi there,
 
I have just had a look at your site, and think it's fantastic to see a site with sex toys and lingerie for married Christian couples. We have been married for 16 years now, and always bought marital aids from secular sites, which are so frequently on the fringes of pornography.
 
I have a question that I need to ask, which I have never, ever found any help and advice for. I have come to the conclusion that it must be a highly unusual problem. That is, of premature orgasm for women. Sure, there's stuff all over the place about premature ejaculation. But, am I the only women in the world with this problem?
 
What it means for me, is that all too often, I have to ask my husband to stop doing something that I'm loving, because I'll climax and it'll all be over. If I climax before penetration, I can usually manage to have another one, or sometimes two climaxes after penetration, but that has to be fairly hot on the heels of the first, or it won't happen again. So, even if I do have another one, it's still all-over all too soon.
 
Okay, I guess most women will be wondering what on earth I'm complaining about, but I get a bit fed up of having to ask him to stop, instead of being able to enjoy, at length, (if you'll pardon the pun) an evening of fun and games with my husband.

 
 

 A.

Thank you for your question. First of all, I want you to know, you are not alone and your question IS valid, not just to you, but to many others as well! 
Unfortunately, a woman’s orgasm, unless it is about the lack there of, is not commonly spoken of, instead there seems to be a rather one-sided all consumed concentration on male prolonged satisfaction, while women remain sexually frustrated in regards to this issue. 
I have a few further questions regarding your inquiry however, so I will attend to several different scenarios in the hope to answer other related questions and yours at the same time. If for some reason, I leave your question not answered to the extent that you had hoped for, please write back with more information. 
(1)     Firstly, if you are finding that the “pre-empt” (foreplay), is bringing on the finish line earlier than you would like, you may want to edit the foreplay, and go straight to the ‘main event’, or leave it out all together for a while. 
(2)     If that isn’t going to meet your needs, try having your husband use a vibrator  http://www.mybelovedsgarden.net/Massage-Vibes.html 
over your street clothes or a folded towel to delay orgasm, this way you can still experience foreplay but at a lower frequency, and avoid having to abruptly bring your enjoyable love making to a halt; thus numbing the experience, if you will, and buffering the intensity, prolonging the pleasure.  
(3)     Another suggestion would be using a delay cream, 
http://www.mybelovedsgarden.net/Oils-and-Lubes.html 
 (this is usually recommended for men climaxing quicker than they would prefer), however this cream has the same affect on the women’s anatomy – definitely worth giving it try! 
(4)     Another idea is to experience with hot and cold. (Microwave or freeze a Pyrex dildo http://www.mybelovedsgarden.net/Glass-Phallus.html   , or use ice cubes). Some women find that either extreme temperatures can ‘turn back time’ when it comes to climaxing. 
(5)     Yet another idea has to do with sexual positions. It may take a little experimentation (which could be fun), to figure out which position slows things down the best, but there is definite factual testing that supports the fact the position affects climaxing. We carry a book on positions that may inspire you. 
http://bettersex4christians.com/tastefullyillustratedsexpositions.html 
 Changing positions may also help to reduce the speed of climaxing during actual intercourse as well. 
(6)     Lastly, concentrating on g-spot orgasms may also be helpful. This type of orgasm is a totally different sensation than a clitoral orgasm, and can provide you will a much longer, less intense, but20no less enjoyable experience. Keep watching our site as we will be providing much more information on how to achieve a g-spot orgasm. Until then, you will find the g-spot approximately two inches inside the vagina, up toward the belly button. It can be easily reached ‘manually’ by your husband (2 or more fingers works the best), with one of the g-spot devices that we sell on our site http://www.mybelovedsgarden.net/G-Spot-Vibes.html   , or by your husband entering you from behind during vaginal intercourse. 
 
As far as having multiple orgasms, your best bet is to leave at least ten minutes between stimulation sessions, (take a massage break),or alternate between g-spot orgasms and clitoral orgasm, or maybe you would like to be industrious, and try having both a clitoral and g-spot orgasm simultaneously. A word of advice...put a towel down on the bed before experimenting with g-spot orgasm as it has been known to produce an explosion of fluids, much like a male’s ejaculation or even more impressive. Don’t be concerned that you have urinated during your thwarts of passion, this is not urine! Hope this helps. 
 
God Bless, 
  Sherri
My Beloveds Garden 
 
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  Q.

Michael,

Which product would be better for delaying ejaculation: Power Plus
(creme or spray) or the Lasso?

 A.

Get both and try them (Cream), the lasso is great not just for delay but when you are going to ejaculate, you can loosen the lasso. loosen it right at the perfect moment and you will have a heightened different experience. I have not personally tried the Delay cream. You need to be a little aware when using it as it will make your wife numb as well making it harder for her to orgasm. 
You can use anesthetic creams to delay premature ejaculation by applying appropriate amount of cream on the head of the penis before the intercourse to reduce sensation. Just be sure to wipe the cream off the penis before intercourse so that your partner doesn’t experience genital numbness like what you are experiencing. Be certain too that your body has no reaction to lidocaine and prilocaine as these two are the active ingredients of every topical anesthetic creams. Therefore, if you don't have any reaction to this ingredients, creams like this are seem successful in slowing ejaculation without systemic side effects. 
 
Michael,
My Beloveds Garden 
 
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Q.
 
I'm a 51 year old married man. My wife and I have been married since 1988 and we have two teenage boys about to finish high school. I've been a Christian since high school and am an ordained minister.
 
My wife and I have enjoyed our various sex toys both together and alone over the years which have included vibrators, vibrating penis rings, prostrate massager's, and I like my nipple clamps.
 
 Recently, we've been experimenting with how my wife can use her vibrator to stimulate me which I've loved and she loves how it makes me feel.. The absolute wildest thing was on Valentines. My wife had bought us some chocolate body cream which we ended up putting on one of her vibrators. Both of us licked the chocolate off of it. Then she got on top of me while I licked and sucked the chocolate covered vibrator and we had a powerful climax. She told me that she has never known me to have this powerful of a climax. I must say those two cyberskin vibrator that I got her for her birthday back in January have been the most repeatedly commented about gifts that I've ever given.

Do other Christian couples enjoy playing with their vibrators like we have just discovered?

I look forward to your answer.
 
A.

Dear John,

We are glad that you and your wife are enjoying your freedom in Christ, keep it up J. Please let us know what you purchased so others know what you are talking about.

To answer your question:

Many of our customers have great fulfilling sex lives and others do not. So many people have been “Christian abused” with guilt and feeling bad and evil for the things they think about and want to do with their spouse. Our goal is to help people to be free and have a great time with each other while keeping Christ in the marriage and in the bedroom.

 If you and your wife are into it, go for it. We as married people need to be careful not to force your spouse’s into doing something they do not want to do. We also do not want to do anything that contradicts scripture. Other than that we are free in Christ to make love and have sex how we choose. Thank you for your question. If we have not answered your question totally please ask more specifically what you would like to ask.

 
God Bless,
Michael and Sherri
My Beloveds Garden

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